The Lord empowers us to fulfil our purpose. He declares our purpose to us, but we cannot fulfil it on our own. There is no way we are going to accomplish it without him. It will be helpful if we realised that early enough.
Paul said that God works in us to reveal to us his purpose, and continues to works in us so that we work it out (Philippians 2:13). That is the picture of grace. Grace leaves no allowance for self-glorification. It is God showing you the way and leading you there himself.
We have the bible given to be our map (2Timothy 3:16), and the person of the Holy Spirit as our guide, leading us to all truth (John 16:13). He is the helper assisting in the accomplishing of what concerns you. We are the works of his hands and when we submit to his working in us on an ongoing basis, we get to exhibit his glory (Romans 8:18-19), be his praise on the earth (1Peter 2:9), be effective tools for his work on the earth (Jeremiah 51:20).
In reality, what we have is a shared destiny with Jesus. None of us has a greater destiny than Jesus and whatever destiny you have is derived from his. John said that he was not the Messiah but has been sent to reveal him, to make him manifest, and that his greatest joy is for Christ to increase and for him to decrease. He does not have any purpose except in the context of Christ, same with us.
If you do not recognise the Messiah you are at risk of thinking that you are the messiah (at least to an extent), setting yourself up for severe judgement. Adam and Eve forgot that they existed in the context of God and let that concept slip from them. They started thinking that they can be God, and the hammer of judgment landed on them (Genesis 3).
To the limit that we understand that we exist solely in the context of Christ to that limit we have him work in and through us, accomplishing what concerns us, since that is a derivative of what concerns him. Since his purpose can’t but be accomplished, in the same vein our purpose in him will be accomplished.
That we exist in the context of Christ is what it means to be Christians (Acts 11:26), Christ imitators. That is why he is the rock and we are the stone (1Peter 2:5); he is the head and we are the body (Colossians 1:18). He is the Son of God, we are sons of God (John 3:16, 1:12), he is the house of God (John 2:19-21), and we are being built into the habitation of God in the spirit (Ephesians 2:20-22). We are being built into who he already is. We are being built into the full statue of the Son of God in spiritual maturity (Ephesians 4:8-16).
He is the cornerstone (Ephesians 2:20) of the building in which we are stones, and the cornerstone defines the shape of the whole building. It is Jesus who gives shape to us. we don’t receive him as saviour and go on to be doing what we like, in the same package of salvation is the provision that Jesus is Lord, the determinant, the one we yield to in all things, at all times and in all ways (Romans 10:9-10). He is the one who defines us.
He plans your life and then set you up with the required tools, helping you to be successful, to make success of your life. That is why he is the alpha and omega, the beginning and the ending. He starts you up and keeps you going to his desired end for you (Revelation 1:8).
All he asks is that we cooperate with him; follow the path of obedience. But it is unfortunate that few find that path. Jesus said that the path of life is narrow and few find it, but the road that leads to destruction is broad and many are there (Matthew 7:13-14).
Jesus told two would-be disciples: follow me and I will make you fishers of men (Matthew 4:19). What were they to do? Nothing more than following him, and he will show them the ropes. He already is what they were meant to be. And they were meant to be it in relation to him, not apart from him.
We will not struggle if we just focus on being what God wants us to be in association with him, the struggle comes when we strive to fit in a mould that is not based on the shape that God has in mind for us, but based on the pressure of human expectations, and weight of demands that causes us to be distracted from the journey of divine transformation, sidetracked by the conforming spirit in the world (Romans 12:1-2).
But with the right company, we are exposed to things that help us to be transformed (as opposed to being conformed to this world) by the renewal of our mind, in its rejuvenation with the life of God. When we keep the wrong company we learn the wrong things and are taken away from the path of progress and accomplishment that God wants us to be on.
What are those things that concern you, that are about you, about your life? Rest assured that God will settle them, he will settle you (1Peter 5:10). It may seem like you are in a time of trouble now, even confusion; not knowing what to do. But the bible says that after you have suffered a while God will settle you, bring you to that place of rest.
As Jesus said: come to me all you who struggle and live a life of heavy burden I will give you rest when you learn from me, when you allow me to work all things for you, resting in my work in you and around you, as I change you on the inside and also change what is around you, since I control everything (Matthew 11:28-30).