Day 3: 21 Days to better relationships 

Topic: Think of yourself 

Text: So they said to him, “Who are you? We need to give an answer to those who sent us. What do you say about yourself?” (John 1:22, ESV) 

You are different, therefore your relationships will be different from another’s.

Your self perception is an important dynamic in your relationships.

Therefore, think about who you are, what you want, your peculiarity, uniqueness, your likes and dislikes; “Know thyself”.

Think of how you want to feel, what direction you want to go.  All these will determine your choice of relationships and approach to them.

Think of the direction God wants you to go (Hebrews 10:5). And understand that living to please men (Galatians 1:10) contrary to your own unique destiny is a waste, a drain. 

God has called you to separation to himself and has said we should not be yoked with unbelievers (2Corinthians 6:14-18). 

Do not be involved in the seat of the scornful, counsel of the wicked, and the way of sinners (Psalm 1:1). 

“Evil” relationships will corrupt good manners (1Corinthians 15:33). So,  be courageous enough to walk away from bad influences. “Walk away” from the one who unrepentantly puts you down. Be like a chess player, thinking many moves ahead. 

What does that have to so with better relationships?

When we choose our relationships based on the understanding of who we are, we are able to connect well with the right people, rejecting the wrong people, as your time, energy are limited.

There are people the Bible warns against- the person given to change (i.e. presenting different images of himself, unstable, inconsistent) (Proverbs 24:25); the person prone to anger (Proverbs 22:24).

You don’t want these kinds of people to damage you and make you incapable of connecting with better people with whom you can have better relationships. 

Jesus did not waste his time with the Pharisees. They met but he did not bother having a working relationship with them, trying to connect with them for a bigger spread and thereby compromising his integrity. 

He recognised that they were going in opposite directions. There is no “fellowship” between light and darkness (2Corinthians 6:14). 

You should not think of yourself in one way and your relationship picks are the opposite. There is no need for non-thinking pity in decision making.

Paul said we should not company with a brother (someone you should be in a close relationship with) who is a fornicator (1Corinthians 5:11) or one who is idle (2Thessalonians 3:6-8). 

Therefore, think of yourself. 

Action: write out ten things you want from your life. List three friends and indicate how much they align with them.

Declaration: I am nobody’s puppet


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